Preparing for Christmas without Them

Preparing for Christmas without Them

0Shares0 0 0 0 TweetPocketThe holiday season is one of the hardest times of year for those of us who have lost someone we love. Preparing for Christmas without them is never easy; but with some forethought, we can draw strength from their living presence in our hearts throughout the holiday season and beyond.  Life was starting to feel somewhat normal. We’d have good days and bad, of course. Then the calendar changed. The season brings us back to traditions we’ve made with people we love the most. Once they’ve passed, our Christmas has a piece missing. You may remember all the times he drove you to the store in the middle of the night on Black Friday, or how beautifully she decorated the home you shared. Those who have lost children remember when they were little, and how much fun you had watching them unwrap their gifts. Christmas begins to feel haunted for us after they pass. We don’t want to decorate, go to parties, or be around the music and people. We procrastinate and then ultimately let things slide. The problem here is that if we give into the voice that says, “I don’t feel like doing…,” we often won’t....

5 Wellness Tips for Holidays with your Politically Divided Family

5 Wellness Tips for Holidays with your Politically Divided Family

0Shares0 0 0 0 TweetPocketThey made you furious with their political comments. You unfriended and blocked them on Facebook, and now the prospect of asking them to pass you the gravy at the dinner table has you on edge. A little thought beforehand on how to proactively manage these situations can go a long way. Here are 5 wellness tips you can use to stay sane while with your politically divided family this holiday season. By their nature, holiday gatherings with relatives are stressful events for many of you who may not feel especially close to or enjoy the company of your families. After all, time with relatives can kick up old, unresolved rivalries that center around jealousy, resentment, and all sorts of other unpleasant emotions; and that’s in historically unremarkable years. 2016 is anything but; and as the election has highlighted, this is a nation in which values and beliefs sharply divide people, some of whom you’ll be seeing in the days and weeks to come. Indeed, the holiday turkeys are coming home to roost. It’s important to note that there are legitimate reasons to avoid family. I contend that no survivor of family violence is required to break...

Bridging Differences with the Political ‘Other’

Bridging Differences with the Political ‘Other’

0Shares0 0 0 0 TweetPocketSo Tuesday happened. For some, it represents a path to a new beginning; while for others, it lurches us into a very uncertain and potentially perilous future. We each view the other side as confused and perhaps delusional at best; or extremely dangerous and therefore an imminent threat at worst. To corroborate our views, we seek out and consume media that’s specifically marketed to us as a demographic group and become further divided along cultural and ideological faults. We situate the other side as the enemy, the villain, the political ‘Other.’ A strikingly weak characteristic of our humanity is the tendency to never get beyond viewing people in terms of difference. Much of this is left over from our formative years, for it’s how we learn to order the world early in child development. After all, we need to understand the differences between boys and girls, cats and dogs, black and white so that we may make sense of the world around us. Continuing in development, we come to understand ourselves as gendered beings who have a familial and racial-cultural identity, a community, a set of abilities, talents, gifts, beliefs; or limits therein. The world...