Clearing Away of Old, Dead Parts of Self
Clearing Away of Old, Dead Parts of Self is the third in my 5-part autumn blog series on psychological shedding. The first two parts are linked here: Part 1: A …
Letting Go of Rotten Things
In last week’s blog, “A Time for Psychological Shedding,” I introduced an exercise in which readers were invited to draw a tree and identify the fruits of life decisions you’ve …
A Time for Psychological Shedding
For those of us in the northern hemisphere, September 1 marked the start of meteorological autumn. It’s a great time to harvest the things we wish to take forward in …
Paying Dearly in the Chance for Love
I had the privilege of hearing Dr. Laura Brown’s keynote address at a clinical conference last week. As a therapist who specializes in trauma work, she shared some of the …
A Parent’s Guide for Understanding and Responding to School Bullying
As our nation’s children return to school, what sits with me is a need to talk frankly about the impact that school bullying, exclusion, humiliation, and other actions have on …
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The Enabler That Was: An Exercise in Rewriting Our Stories
We’ve enabled them from taking responsibility for choices, rescued them from the choices they made, and buffered them when these choices should have had consequences. Our skillset may come complete …
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Toxic People: Why We’re Drawn to Them, How to Avoid Them
Like fresh, hot donuts that we know are bad for us, the irresistible allure of toxic people overwhelms our senses and draws us in, rendering us powerless to resist. Unlike …
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Knowing When and Why to Toss Out Your Yearbook
I’ve never advocated for wholesale destruction of memorabilia. In fact, I advise people against tossing photos and artifacts immediately following a divorce or other major relationship rupture. “Put it away …
Find Your Messy and Embrace Your Fabulously Flawed Self
Are you absolutely spent and exhausted from too much giving? Parents, educators, and people in the helping professions know what I’m talking about here. We sacrifice in the service of …
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Acknowledging the Oarsmen
When they occupied our lifespace, they kept us off-balance so that we doubted our worth. Cruel bosses, abusive partners, and people who deeply betrayed our friendship all fall into this …
